Hi Damien,
I have no idea if what i'm doing is right but it's kind of working... I've had another go at calibrating - i've used the setting úser' but with the same rgb values as 'normal' and reduced them all by the same amount to get the brightness down then ran the calibration. it was still warm so i've tweaked the rgb and "I think" the colours and brightness are close.
1. Do I now run the calibration again?
2. Could just be me but the prints look sharper and possibly more saturated than on screen, is that normal?
3. Should all my prints be spot on? the more neutral ones look perfect but then I compare the images with more colour and they don't look as close