HOLY SHIT!!! I think I finally got it! I contacted Datacolor and they had me reset to factory, which I thought I had already done and a few other things. Anyway, at the end of calibration, it looked much better, but still a bit bright. But, now my brightness is at 30 and it's pretty damn close. Now maybe I can get some motivation to edit again! Thank you for sticking with me.
As an aside, now that you're back on FB, are general questions prefered there, or here since I'm a premium member?