I'm sorry if my Spyder instructions gave you the impression that you should only try numbered presets. I definitely think you should try all the presets.
It's very weird, because your Quick Mask button is presses, but the title bar doesn't say you're in QM mode.
That must have something to do with it, though.
The other thing we need to test is if you can Alt-click on the mask of another layer (one that's already been painted on) to see if it show the black-and-white view that it's supposed to.
May I see the whole screenshot, so I can see the little border around the mask thumbnail?
Not saying I don't trust you ... um, actually, yes, that is what I'm saying ...