With two pitiful screens like that, you can never hope for really true results. "Reasonably close" is all you can hope for.
Yes, the process is the same for both screens. They're both laptop screens, essentially. Which calibrator do you have?
I'm so sorry, I don't know. I'm going to move this question to the GenDisc section, in hopes that other members are familiar with those programs, and can tell you.
Yeah, gosh, I agree. The veil will be the challenge.
Please, Candice, don't do any Photoshop work until your raw processing is completed. I'm pretty sure this bride wasn't married in blue.
There's no "trick" to that - just really careful masking. Generally, for this kind of work, I zoom in to about 400%, and use a 5-6px brush. Oh, and the Shift key is vital.