With respect, that's impossible. All DNG files from one camera should be a very similar size. Please check again. It sounds like you were looking at jpeg files.
And? Have you compared it to other DNG files from your camera? Is 20MB correct?
By the way, you're in Adobe RGB. This is disastrous. Fix it right away. Click on the blue link at the bottom of the ACR window, and change from Adobe RGB to sRGB.
No. All this "looking" stuff is feeble and irrelevant. The only way to judge colours is against pro lab prints. Do you have some pro lab prints there?
Furthermore, what program are you viewing in? If it's not an Adobe program, forget it. Only view in Bridge.
This is not a DNG file, sorry. See how small the file is - only 416KB. A real DNG file would be at least twenty times bigger than that. This is just a thumbnail file.
I'm so sorry to be the bearer of bad news
First things first, STOP USING LIGHTROOM. This is exactly the kind of crap you're subjecting yourself to.
http://www.damiensymonds.net/bridge-30-day-challenge
Hi Dani, sorry about my delayed reply. Saturday mornings are a whirlwind of kids' sport, it's hard to get computer time.
While I'm playing with numbers, can you fix your raw processing and post the 100% crop again?